“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” ~ Albert Einstein
With the continued unrest and violence happening around the world, I felt that perhaps sharing these thoughts might help me work out some stuff in my own mind.
There are couple of groups that I belong to on Facebook that are period drama fan sites. This week it was announced that Sanditon, a popular Masterpiece Theatre offering would be renewed after initially being cancelled. So many fans protested the cancellation that after a couple of years the producers relented. BUT, one of the actors, who was a main character, is not returning and there is an ongoing series of posts on the sites by fans who are outraged. They can’t live without this character, they can’t watch the show with a replacement, they blame the actor for ruining their favorite show, and on and on.
Normally, I let those kinds of conversations go on without my input. It seems so trivial to me. But this time, being a theatre person myself, I pointed out that he’s an actor and when the show was cancelled he had to find work. Now he has several projects in process and probably had scheduling conflicts. That set up a bunch more, in my opinion, ridiculous posts about, why didn’t he say that in his statement, how could he leave us in the lurch, what will happen to the main female character now that her love interest isn’t going to continue with the show?
I admit, I was stupid and tried to remind the people posting that there were lots more important things going on in the world, like conflicts and disease where people were dying and perhaps they needed our attention more than a TV show. That was a mistake, because, of course, someone took offense at my statements.
This makes me wonder, why do we focus on trivial things when there are people who need our prayers, our money, and our time trying to help them?
I wonder, am I being callus toward those fans? I have to admit that there have been times in my life when I got all bent out of shape over unimportant things. When I did that, I only made myself miserable for no valid reason. Looking back on those times, I think I was avoiding something that was going on that really needed my attention. Maybe those whining fans are doing the same thing.
After lots of times when I used avoidance tactics, this is what I learned: It’s better to deal with a problem when it arises rather than push it away hoping it will resolve itself on its own. The problem just gets bigger, more scary, and complicated when it’s not attended to. Once I’ve done the work of resolving my feelings and of forgiving if need be, I feel much lighter. I’m more objective. I can see the larger picture of what’s going on around me and I’m more able to help other people.
No matter what the responses to my latest comment, I’m not going to engage in that conversation any longer. It’s silly for me to be impatient with those people. I can’t change their minds, and it’s not my job to be judgmental of their choices. They have to figure out what’s important for themselves.
It’s a lovely spring day here. I think I’ll enjoy it.
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Blessings to you all,
Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2021
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a new podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.
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