Sean Tyler Foley is an accomplished film and stage performer and has been acting in film and television since he was 6 years old after his father passed away suddenly in a motor vehicle accident. He has appeared in productions including Freddy Vs Jason, Door to Door, Carrie, and the musical Ragtime. Tyler is passionate about helping others confidently take the stage and impact an audience with their stories. He is currently the Managing Director of Total Buy In and author of the #1 best-selling book The Power to Speak Naked.
Tyler is a father, husband, son, and performer, in that order. Some days he feels like he has dabbled in every industry on the planet, from oil and gas, to aviation, to film and television, but that diverse experience is what has made him so versatile!
Regardless of the industry or the titles he has held, what they all had in common was promoting and encouraging people to be heard and understood. The skills and resources he has garnered along the way have enabled him to become an entertaining professional speaker and a knowledgeable trainer, who inspires others to reach for their dreams.
With his distinct and direct style, Tyler is emerging as one of North America’s sought-after leaders in the field of public speaking for personal and professional development and would welcome the opportunity to be on your show and discuss the lessons he has learned and the grace he has discovered in each event of his life!
“Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic; they are ideally set up to understand stories.” ~ Roger C. Schank, Cognitive Scientist
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“Change your thought and you’ll change the world.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Wayne Dyer
You know how you hear a maxim and it resonates with you, but it’s difficult to implement? Well, the maxim that I’ve been trying to implement for years is “Our thoughts create our reality.”
Just this morning I was thinking about my morning thought routine and realized that if I want to have a better life, I have to think differently. It takes diligence to switch to a new thought playlist. I don’t know about you, but I’m rather attached to my playlist. It’s familiar and in a way comforting. But my playlist is made up of stories I made up in my head long ago that weren’t true and I never thought to challenge, until now.
I’ve been taking “quests” with Mindvalley and each quest has shaken up my thinking so that now I’m looking at my playlist and realizing that it has held me back for a long time.
I’m nearly finished with the editing process of the 19 videos for my online course, “Saving the World One Story at a Time.” And one thing I kept hearing myself say in those videos was that we make up stories in our heads and think they’re true, when most of the time there not. I guess what I said in those videos hit home for me, because today, I’ve decided that I’ve got to make a new, more positive thought playlist so I can expand my influence, and even my prosperity. Staying at home creating is nice, but at some point I will need to go out and connect with a broader group of people.
My thoughts not only create the reality of my personal life, they create what’s going on in the world as well. Collectively our thoughts create the events that are going on in the world around us. I hope we start seeing the world as a friendly place rather than listening to the news outlets that get ratings by shouting about all the bad things happening in the world. When we do change our thinking and begin to see the neighbors next door, or the people we work with, our family and friends, or even our public leaders as beings of light rather than as people with lots of problems, or as scum bags, the world will change. Everyone has their struggles, and everyone has opportunities to heal and grow. I want to encourage all of us to heal and grow from our mistakes, and thus change the way we think.
That’s all I have for today. Just sharing my current thought playlist for you.
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Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, after the last few years, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss their creative endeavors, and/or the stories that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.
Patreon
I’m so passionate about stories that I created the Story-Power podcast and Patreon communities so I’d have an excuse to talk story. You may have seen my Story-Power posts here. If you’re passionate about stories too, and want to talk about your favorite stories, come join me at either SageWoman.life, or patreon.com/StoryPower.
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If you are a podcaster, or have a message or fantastic product you want to share with the world, I encourage you to check out PodMatch. Use the affiliate link and tell them, Lucinda sent you. Then contact me so we can set up a Story-Power chat.
“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” ~ Joyce Meyer
“Sometimes things aren’t clear right away. That’s where you need to be patient and persevere and see where things lead.” ~ Mary Pierce
I’ve had to remember how to be patient these past two weeks and I’m so glad I was reminded, because being patient helped me shift a major thought widget I have been holding onto for almost all my life. Which was, I have to rush to the finish line on projects or they won’t be successful. When I pay attention to one little segment that I’m working on that day fully, I’m more efficient.
Let me tell you what happened. I’ve been making the videos for my online class, “Saving the World One Story at a Time,” and putting them onto our laptop computer. My desk top died a few months back. And, of course, the storage capacity on the laptop isn’t very large, because it was meant to be a back up or as our travel computer. Well, naturally, the storage space got filled up with all the videos and I was unable to do any work on my course until Barry had time to move the iMovie project off onto an external hard drive. That took about a week.
In the meantime, I got the October 12th Story-Power episode, “Armenian Genocide, Chronic Fatigue, and Creativity” edited and scheduled. But, on Wednesday it was published here, but not on Apple, Google, or Spotify. Thanks heaven I’m preparing this class. The bottom line of the class is that we can use stories to help ourselves become more emotionally intelligent. In other words, I managed my emotions and instead of yelling and screaming about this latest glitch, I waited for help, or inspiration.
I didn’t think of this until today as I write this, but one of the stories I reference in my course is Marry Me with Jennifer Lopez and Owen Wilson. I don’t usually watch or even read straight out romances, but I like both actors and there is something Jennifer Lopez says in the trailer that made me think this might be a different kind of story. She says, “If you want something different, you’ve got to do something different.” I liked that so I watched the movie and I have to say it was great, because Owen Wilson’s character says something that applied to my tech woe dilemma. He said, “When you have a problem, sit with it for awhile and the answer will come.” That’s what I did. I decided that Barry and I could figure out what had happened and eventually get the podcast episode up. And yesterday I woke up and thought, “I could just repost the episode and it would then populate my podcast hosts.” I tried it and, voila, it worked.
But back to the course I’m creating. If I had people to edit the videos, upload the details of each lesson, and the like, it would probably be launched by now. And yet, I’m kind of particular. I want to make it the best it can be, and even if someone else was doing the technical part of the job, I’d still have to watch each video, examine each document, and approve them. So, I have to trust that everything happens in its proper time. I’ll trust the Universe and get the course finished when I get it finished and that will be the proper time for it to go out into the world.
I’m actually looking forward to not putting pressure on myself to get the course up. Stress is not a good thing for anybody. And that was something else I realized. I put pressure on myself to get things done.
I guess that’s all I’ve got to share with you right now. It’s Saturday and I think I’ll have some fun.
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, after the last few years, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss their creative endeavors, and/or the stories that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.
Patreon
I’m so passionate about stories that I created the Story-Power podcast and Patreon communities so I’d have an excuse to talk story. You may have seen my Story-Power posts here. If you’re passionate about stories too, and want to talk about your favorite stories, come join me at either SageWoman.life, or patreon.com/StoryPower.
PodMatch
If you are a podcaster, or have a message or fantastic product you want to share with the world, I encourage you to check out PodMatch. Use the affiliate link and tell them, Lucinda sent you. Then contact me so we can set up a Story-Power chat.
Ashley Kalagian Blunt is the author of How to Be Australian, and My Name Is Revenge. Her writing has been published widely. An award-winning speaker, she has a Master of Research in creative writing. Originally from Canada, she lived and worked in South Korea, Mexico and Peru before moving to Sydney, Australia. She lives with chronic illness.
Wind River, (2017) Taylor Sheridan, Director, Jeremy Renner, Elizabeth Olsen, Graham Greene, Gil Birmingham
“Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic; they are ideally set up to understand stories.” ~ Roger C. Shank, Cognitive Scientist
Patreon
I’m so passionate about stories that I created the Story-Power podcast and Patreon communities so I’d have an excuse to talk story with other story lovers. If you’re passionate about stories too, and want to talk about what you’ve learned from your favorites, come join me at patreon.com/StoryPower.
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This episode is brought to you by PodMatch, the dating service for podcasters. They introduced me to Ashley Kalagian Blunt, and I’m so glad they did. I hope you’ve enjoyed our conversation and remember that if you have a podcast or something to share with the world, check out PodMatch and tell them Lucinda sent you.
“Instead of getting hard ourselves and trying to compete, women should try and give their best qualities to men – bring them softness, teach them how to cry.” ~ Joan Baez
I’ve been weeping a lot this week. I said to Barry that I was feeling emotionally fragile. However, several things converged to change my mind to make me feel differently. These are in no particular order.
I watched the seasons, Cranford, and Return to Cranford this week. I had seen Cranford several years ago, and read the book on which it is based, but because we didn’t subscribe to BritBox at that time, I couldn’t watch the second series. I decided it was time to complete my experience. The story is filled with so much love that I wept at the end of each ending.
They are actually a combination of three or four stories by Elizabeth Gaskell (1810 – 1865) She was close friends with Charlotte Brontë and like the Brontë sisters, was a woman writer in a time when getting her work published was a terribly difficult thing to do. However, the list of her work is long and impressive. And she did it while being a minister’s wife and the mother of six children. Almost all of her stories revolve around female protagonists. They are gentle representations of life in England at a time when life was changing rapidly because of the Industrial Revolution. The stories reflect the kind of communities I would love to live in.
During that time, I listened to Brené Brown’s resumption of her podcast. She’d been on sabbatical for a few months. Brené is a completely open and vulnerable person. She shared some life shattering events that were part of her decision to take a step back. But mostly, she quit doing her Unlocking Us podcast when that controversy over Joe Rogen exploded. All of Brené’s podcasts are exclusively on Spotify. Since her work is all about vulnerability, shame, and how we deal with our emotions, she wasn’t sure Spotify’s response to Rogen’s misinformation was appropriate. The controversy affected her a great deal. She feels a great responsibility to her Community and to promoting self-examination, inclusion, social justice, and the like. The reaction she got was shocking.
When she took a step back to do some examination of herself and her work, she was bombarded with such vitriol and hatred that it added to the stresses on her personal life. This first podcast back was all about “Shaking the Sh*t from the Trees.” Did she deserve the hatred directed at her? Had she made mistakes with her research? How could she recover from the attacks and move forward? How could she deal with the difficult things happening in her family? The thing I love about Brené is she tells the truth about her experiences, how they affect her, and how she deals with what happens. Over the years I’ve been slowly doing the same thing. What she shared spoke to what’s going on with me.
Fortunately, I’m not subjected to hate filled responses to any of my posts, no matter where they appear. At least not yet. But when people I follow do experience that, it makes me realize that for some reason and for the most part, humans have subscribed to the ideas that the world is a scary and dangerous place. That when someone we relied upon takes a break to take care of themselves, our crutch is taken away and we get scared and angry. “How can we possibly take care of ourselves?” And so they lash out with hatred because they are unable to acknowledge their fear and need to do their own work.
This morning I was thinking about my emotional ups and downs of the week and ideas came together in my head. In both Cranford seasons, Miss Matty Jenkyns is the heart of a town mostly populated by widowed, or single women. She is gentle, loving, and supportive of her friends and acquaintances. Throughout the stories, she suffers lots of losses but they never make her hard. She always forgives and allows her neighbors to have their own opinions. If she thinks events need to be re-evaluated, such as supporting the railroad coming to town, she entreats her friends to do so in very gentle ways. Because of this, she is supported by those who love her.
In the last episode of the entire work, there is a train wreck and some people are killed when the engine explodes. The townspeople are in shock and grief. Miss Matty comes up with a plan to help them come together and heal. And when one of the characters asks her how she managed to accomplish her goal she says, “Love is the final word.”
Love is considered to be a soft emotion. But no matter what, love always wins. My friend and former colleague, Dave Dahl, always asked our acting students to find the love in their scenes. I think that’s what I look for in all the stories I consume. Where is the love and how are the characters changed and healed by it? And by extension, how am I healed by it?
My emotions are near the surface now because I’ve been doing quite a bit of self-examination. And I find that stories I told myself about who I am are not true. The role I thought I was supposed to be playing during this lifetime, is not what I thought. I’m not quite sure what twists and turns my life will take once I launch my online course. I know that my podcast and this blog are beginning to get more attention. For a long time I have been reluctant to come out of hiding and become more visible. But, I can’t stop now. When I was editing the next Story-Power episode, I realized that creativity benefits both the creator and the consumer of the work. I believe it it creativity that will save the world, not so much science. Because it is creativity that helps us examine our emotions. And our emotions are what shape our experiences. Hard emotions make the world a difficult place in which to live. Soft emotions make it welcoming. I want to live in a welcoming world.
Thank you so much for following, liking and commenting. I hope things in your world are going well.
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, after the last few years, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss their creative endeavors, and/or the stories that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.
Patreon
I’m so passionate about stories that I created the Story-Power podcast and Patreon communities so I’d have an excuse to talk story with other story lovers. If you’re passionate about stories too, and want to talk about what you’ve learned from your favorites, come join me at patreon.com/StoryPower.
PodMatch
If you are a podcaster, or have a message or fantastic product you want to share with the world, I encourage you to check out PodMatch. Use the affiliate link and tell them, Lucinda sent you. Then contact me so we can set up a Story-Power chat.
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