Our Bodies Are the Least Interesting Thing About Us

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Where Do We Place Our Attention?

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.” ~ Brené Brown

“Social media is something of a double-edged sword. At its best, social media offers unprecedented opportunities for marginalized people to speak and bring much needed attention to the issues they face. At its worst, social media also offers ‘everyone’ an unprecedented opportunity to share in collective outrage without reflection.” ~ Roxane Gay

“Whatever we put our attention on will grow stronger in our life.” ~ Maharishi Mahesh Yogi

I’ve been thinking a great deal over the last few months about what I attend to. I’m not quite sure when I started to become wary of paying too much attention to social media, but that’s one aspect of what I’m talking about. Though, I think spending my attention wisely has been a big part of my life for many years.

When Barry and I were looking for land to buy to put our manufactured home on, we searched for a place that had gorgeous views. Luckily we found land surrounded by three mountain ranges. It’s a pleasure to wake up to see the colors of the sunrise, or marvel at the sunsets in the evenings, to see the clouds coming over the Huachucas during monsoon, or the various wild creature friends meandering through our yard. 

A few years after we moved into our house, we met the man we bought the land from. He asked us if we still appreciated the views from our house and we said yes. “But why do you ask?” we said. “Because I find that when I see people some time after they buy their land, they say they forget to pay attention to the views they so valued when they purchased it in the first place.” I found that sad. 

Since I started my podcast, Story~Power, I have been thinking a great deal about how to get it noticed. It feels scummy to use social media to try to gain paying followers, yet I would like to get some kind of financial support for all the work I put in. It’s a dilemma I’m struggling with. What is more important acquiring income, or connecting with other human beings who are trying to figure out stuff just like I am?

Not long ago, I heard about a book that I thought might give me the answers I’ve been looking for. It’s How to do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy, by Jenny Odell. In the book she writes about the damage the capitalist mind set of productivity has done to us. We don’t take time to connect with our friends, family and immediate communities because we’re expected, or even driven to produce more. We don’t connect with nature, or even ourselves. Her idea is that we need to take time to put down our phones, get away from our computers, and just do nothing even if it’s only for a few minutes a day. We need to do this not so we can be more productive, but so we can become an integral part of the world.

Right after the 2016 election, Odell felt frazzled by all the whirling media. She comforted herself by going to a nearby rose garden almost every day. At first she just sat, but soon she began to watch the wildlife, and watch how the garden changed with the seasons. She’s become an avid birdwatcher, but not in the traditional, “I’ve got to tick off the birds I’ve seen on my life list,” kind of way. No, she wants to have a relationship with them by seeing how they change throughout their life cycle, by being able to identify the song of each different species. She even started a relationship with two black birds that now visit her almost every day. She’s gone to investigate creeks, hills, and mountains that were in her periphery throughout her lifetime, but now she feels need closer examination.

What does all this have to do with social media you might ask, well, she wrote that on most social media platforms the posts that go through our feeds have no context. They are random posts meant to grab our attention and maybe even our emotions so we’ll click on the news story, or the health site, or business page, which allows those entities to gather information about us so they can bombard us with stuff to buy. She goes into great detail about how the way social media is run is detrimental to our wellbeing in so many ways. One of the ways is that we might fail to make real and lasting connections with those around us, including the natural world.

Odell published this book right before the pandemic hit. I think if she were writing it today, she might acknowledge that we’ve changed as a result of having to work from home, be with our families 24/7, or being forced to be cut off from friends and family. This disruption of our old lives has fundamentally changed our perspective about what is really important. 

I’m only scratching the surface of things she brings to light in her book. I highly recommend it to any of you who have had the same feeling of discomfort I’ve had in the way our societies have been going.

Reading this book has made me ask the question how do I make more meaningful connections even with the people I meet on social media or my podcast? How can I appreciate not only the natural world around me, but the history of the place in which I live?

Part of my intention in starting both this blog and Story~Power was to learn from other people. To hear their stories, share commonalities and examine differences. I want to create caring connections while at the same time publish my thoughts and conversations in hopes that they might help other people as well.

I’m trying to wade through all the noise that seems to permeate our society so I can hear how to be the best service to myself and others. I don’t have all the answers yet. I feel like being careful about what I pay attention to day by day is one of the best thing I can do. I can also continue to listen to my creative voice and share it and let the Universe take care of the rest.

Thanks for reading. Welcome new followers. I hope you are doing well.

Blessings,

Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2022

Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.

Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.

The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.

Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me 

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What A Week!

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So, the first week of 2022 was very INTERESTING for me. My first podcast of the year with Rosie Beech of Yorick Radio Productions was supposed to air on Wednesday January 5th. Everything seemed to go smoothly, but there was a problem with the audio, which it took Barry and I most of Wednesday evening to figure out with the help of a couple of people at WordPress. This is not a new problem. And I may have difficulty again when I try to upload the audio for the January 19th episode but that is not the point of this story.

The thing is, this time, I was frustrated, but I wasn’t yelling at the computer like I would have done in the past. Something has shifted in my inner landscape. I’m still working on healing old wounds, attitudes, and beliefs about myself but I do feel encouraged that I didn’t completely panic. As Marie Forleo says all the time on her Marie TV channel and in her book of the same name, “Everything is figureoutable.” Good thing too, because that wasn’t the only glitch we had with technology this week.

All the challenges have made me reflect on what is most important to me and why I’m determined to keep writing and sharing stories. Despite my ineptitude with technology, I want to continue offering Story~Power episodes. Every time I chat with someone, I feel energized by their life experiences and what they have learned from their creative endeavors and the stories they love. They inspire me and I want to share my conversations with all of you in hopes that you will be inspired too.

I was reading a book Barry gave me for Christmas, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell. It’s the perfect book for me because I don’t want to do all the things with social media that common wisdom says you must do to promote your creative work. Anyway, I was reading and something she had written made me ask myself why I’m so passionate about stories? And the answer is, human connection. 

The first connection I relate to my love of stories are the conversations I had with my father about the movies we watched together. I loved those conversations because of how our relationship grew. And they made me want to continue to use stories to deepen my connection with my other friends and family.

There are so many layers of connection when we consume stories of any kind, even the ones our family and friends tell us. There are the surface components to the story like, is it funny, poignant, sad or tragic, harrowing, a puzzle to be figured out? But there are also the deeper layers. Why do the characters do what they do? What are the events from their past that influence their actions? Do they learn from the challenges they face as the story goes along? These questions can be applied to in person storytelling as well. We all share the things that happen to us, just like I’m doing now, for a reason. We may not be fully aware of why we’re telling the story, but that doesn’t matter. 

I think when we tell or consume stories, we’re trying to find meaningful connections with the author, movie makers, and characters. I think we talk about them because we want to make the story a communal experience. 

We’re a little bit like a very young boy I witnessed at a child development center where I worked. He was perhaps two years old or so and he climbed the same path on the climbing structure over and over again. The four year olds in my class watched him for a while and then they asked me, “Why does he keep doing the same thing over and over again?” My response was, “He’s trying to teach himself something.” 

Now doing the same thing over and over again can be a bad thing if we think that we’ll get a different result. But if we’re like that little boy and revisit stories, or genres of stories we love, I think we do that because we’re trying to learn something. That’s why I’m a voracious reader, movie, and TV watcher. It’s why I go to see live theatre. I get a chance to learn from the experiences of the characters and not have to live through them myself. I’m always looking for the deeper layers of a story remembering how my father would ask question after question until I understood the storyteller’s purpose.

I believe we need stories because they are one of the best tools for helping us understand ourselves. I’m always trying to understand myself better and I’m grateful for the stories that have helped me in so may ways. I’m more forgiving, more open, and more willing to try new things because for the most part, the characters came through their challenges in a much better condition than when the story began. If I didn’t try to learn from others and from my own experiences, my life would be extremely bleak indeed.

I have a raft of Story~Power episodes that I recorded before the end of the year, and new conversations scheduled. My goal is to deepen my connection with you, my friends, family and social media connections. I don’t know about you, but these last two years have turned everything topsy turvy and I want to see if we can make some sense of it all, together.

I hope your new year is off to a better start than mine. But I’ve learned this week that everything works out in the end if I don’t panic.

Thanks for reading and listening to Story~Power. Welcome to all my new followers. 

Blessings,

Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2022

Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.

Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.

The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.

Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.

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Dreams Do Come True, Eventually

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The Circle of Ceridwen Saga, Octavia Randolph

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“Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic; they are ideally set up to understand stories.” ~ Roger C. Schank, Cognitive Scientist

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Yay! A New Year

“Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic, they are ideally set up to understand stories.” ~ Roger C. Schank, Cognitive Scientist

“We live in a fantasy world, a world of illusion. The great task in life is to find reality. ~ Iris Murdoch

The first quote above is one I use at the end of the show notes for every episode of my podcast, Story~Power. I use it because it’s true. One thing I’ve learned over the years is that I tell myself stories all the time about things that happen to me or my life situations. It’s only been in the last few years that I’ve had to admit that most of the time those stories are bogus. They’re not true but for some reason, I was so invested in believing they were true that I created situations for myself that were less than ideal. In some cases the stories I told myself were down right harmful.

Over the last few years I’ve been trying to weed out those false stories and get a grip on true reality. My latest realization is that I’m capable of much more than I thought. For example, I used to think that I wasn’t good at making money. Who knows where I got this silly thought. Maybe it’s because my parents didn’t have lots of money as I was growing up. We had to pay close attention to our expenditures, weigh the best times to buy big ticket items and be sure to get the best deals on every purchase. Through no fault of theirs I got the idea that money was scarce, that I was never going to make lots of it, and that’s the story I’ve told myself until just recently. 

I’m never sure how the realizations that a story I’ve told myself is untrue comes crashing into my consciousness. The acknowledged shift occurs after lots of little pieces have come together. Recently, I’ve had a big realization, that I am capable of managing not only small amounts of money but larger amounts too. In fact, I was surprised to realize that I’m capable of running a business. The key is my attitude about it. If I choose to run a business, I can do it. As Marie Forleo says, “everything is figureoutable.” Running the financial side of a business is something I would have turned my nose up at a year ago but now I’m willing to embrace it. I may fail, but as I tell my students, and myself, there are no failures, it’s all just learning.

Other things are shifting for me. For example, I’ve written this blog for nine years in a kind of haphazard way. If you’ve followed me for any length of time you might know that I really hate regimented organization. I’m not someone who loves spreadsheets, or routine. I will follow a routine when I have to, but hating doing so is another story I’ve told myself. I can change the plot of that story. I don’t need to have a strict structure, but some kind of structure is better than none.

What I’ve come to understand over the last few months as my true retirement from teaching approaches, is that it’s time for some changes. My attitudes about money and routine are just two of those changes. I’m not completely sure how this blog will change yet. I may share bits of my books, or snippets of audio conversations from my podcasts. I may share my feelings about stories I’ve consumed. We’ll see. I’m letting myself get used to the changes I’m making, how I view who I am, and what I want to be doing that makes me not only happy, but feel like I’m contributing something meaningful to the world. 

I guess listening to and watching multiple versions of A Christmas Carol over the holidays has contributed a bit to my resolve to make some major changes. After all, Scrooge makes some pretty big changes in his life. As the character Carl Davis says in the holiday classic movie, Holiday Affair, “Anything can change a life that’s ready to be changed.” I’m ready for some big changes. I don’t know about you, but my life was getting pretty stagnant. 

I plan to pay attention to the lessons of the last two years and try new things. 

I feel like 2022 will be a better year for all of us if we choose to make it so.

Blessings and Happy New Year.

Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2022

Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.

Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.

The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.

Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.

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