What’s Most Important?

Getting a hug from Dad

“One of the most important things one can do in life is to brutally question every single thing you are taught.” ~ Bryant H. McGill

“One of the most important things you can do in your life is to learn to pull back the curtain of fear so you can see it for what it really is – the enemy blowing a lot of smoke and pushing your buttons. ~ Victoria Osteen

I’ve been mostly at home for sixteen weeks which has given me a lot of time to think about what is most important to me. It probably comes as no surprise that human connection is my number one priority. I call or text loved ones often. And part of the reason I’m creating the podcast Story~Power is because I crave connection with people who have as much passion for stories as I do. Consuming stories connects me with the author or movie maker and gives me an opportunity to gain new insights.

My other top priority, and this might seem antithetical to my desire for human connection, is to experience mental silence. I don’t think these two concepts are mutually exclusive and here’s why.

I’ve recently discovered this amazing motivational speaker on YouTube named Simon Sinek. I’ve watched four or five of his motivational videos and the main message in all of them is that leaders, and of course regular people as well, need to be focused on creating real, caring relationships with the people they live and work with. Paying more attention to financial gain over the people who create the products and services isn’t a good business model anymore, if in fact it ever was.

This morning, as I’m writing this, I listened to a short video in which he outlines the 5 Rules That Will Change Your Future. In rule number 5, he talks about Nelson Mandela who is universally regarded as the best leader in recent times. Simon tells why. When asked what made him such a great leader, Mandela said he watched how his father, who was a tribal leader, conducted himself at tribal meetings. His father listened to what every member of the council had to say before he spoke. I imagine he even sat silently thinking, or perhaps more accurately, feeling everything that was said before he ventured to offer his opinion. That’s exactly the kind of person I want to be, someone who is silent and listens not just with my mind but with my heart to what others have to say. Then take the time to evaluate what has been said before I speak.

As I’ve been recording and editing the chats with my podcast guests, I realize, I need to listen to what my guests have to say more than talk myself, because what they have to share is extremely interesting. I’m learning important things from them and I hope my listeners do to.

And one last thing, mental silence is restful and I don’t know about you, but I need to disconnect from all the noise that’s being generated right now. When my mind in silent, and believe me some days that’s difficult to achieve, I can truly rest. Being stressed out and combative on social media, or with acquaintances doesn’t help solve any problems at all. It only causes more stress.

That’s really all I have to convey, that I feel the need to chat with people, listen to their stories, and contemplate their points of view before I share my own thoughts. Because my mind gets caught in a loop of thinking the same thoughts over and over again. And listening to other people share their experiences and opinions interrupts all the meaningless stuff running rampant through my brain. Thinking the same thoughts over and over again is both boring and non-productive. I think that’s one of the reasons I consume books, movies and TV shows, so I have new things to think about.

I plan to launch Story~Power on July 22 and publish a new episode every two weeks. There will be a page on this site exclusively for the podcast, with show notes and a short bio for each guest. I’m getting excited to share my conversations with all of you.

Have a lovely weekend. Thanks for reading, commenting, and liking. Welcome to my new followers. I hope you stay healthy and safe.

Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2020

Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.

Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.

The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.

Published by lucindasagemidgorden

I grew up in the West, the descendant of people traveling by wagon train to a new life. Some of their determination and wanderlust became a part of me. I imagine them sitting around the campfire telling stories, which is why I became first a theatre artist, then a teacher and now a writer. They are all ways of telling stories.

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