“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” ~ Reinhold Neibuhr
Last week’s post is still eerily appropriate after the roller coaster week we’ve just had. The negative energies flying around have been so intense that I have not slept well. I’ve been exhausted, jittery, out of sorts, bemused, and confused. What the heck is going on? It feels like we’re living in a nightmare. And yet, sometimes you have to make a mess before the closets are cleaned, or the meal is made.
It’s been so hard this week to keep my balance and stay positive. I’ve spent so much time each morning writing in my journal, meditating, and sending Reiki that I haven’t accomplished as much as I would have liked. Yet it feels like an important time to be taking care of myself physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Here is what I do when I’m feeling as if everything in my world is changing so rapidly that I can’t keep up.
Meditate. I’m not a champion meditator, but taking my mind off of shattering events for a few moments is enormously helpful. You may choose to spend time in prayer, listen to soothing music, or read inspirational material. It doesn’t matter. Do something that disconnects you from the craziness going on around you.
Write in my journal. I’ve been keeping a journal off and on for forty-three years. I’ve found it to be a tremendous comfort to pour out my feelings onto the pages. Sometimes I get answers to my questions, but I always receive comfort from writing my emotions. In a way it’s like turning on the faucet and letting all the negativity and confusion flow out my pen.
Send Reiki. For those of you who don’t know, Reiki is one of the laying on of hands healing techniques, though it can be sent at a distance. When I send Reiki, I feel like I’m actually doing something to calm the waters of a situation, or to help someone heal. And since Reiki practitioners are like a conduit for healing and positive energy, I get the benefits too. I think of Reiki as focused prayer. But if you don’t do Reiki, you can pray or do some other healing technique. Focusing on healing for ourselves and others is highly beneficial. It’s like throwing a rock into the water and watching the ripples expand to the opposite shore.
Talk with family and friends. I talk mostly with my husband and sister, but there are other friends and family I talk to as well. It’s always good to get another perspective on what’s happening.
Telling myself “I love you”. This one may sound weird but I just started doing this and I do feel better when I do it. I mean how often do we send ourselves love? For me I’m mostly criticizing myself. But if God loves me just the way I am, who am I to argue with Her?
Deep breathing. I find that when I’m stressed I do not take deep breaths. I clench up my abdomen which is not only bad for breathing, but bad for my digestion as well. Just taking a few deep breaths helps me feel as if I’ve put down a heavy weight.
Exercise. Okay, I’m not good at this one, but my husband goes for a two mile walk almost every day. When he does, I can tell a difference in his mood. I do stretches, and a few Tai Chi movements and I do feel better after doing them.
Other people swear by going out into nature. I go out and feed the birds upon occasion and since we live in the country, I enjoy watching the wildlife in our yard. Seeing the quail families, the other birds, or the deer come and drink from our bird bath is always a treat.
Writing about the ways I try to keep my equilibrium when I’m feeling unsettled has helped me feel better.
I hope you are surviving and maybe even thriving during this extremely tumultuous time we’re living in. I’d love to hear any suggestions you may have of how to stay calm when everything seems to be blowing up around you.
Thanks for following. Take care of yourselves.
Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2020
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.