“Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone’s face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.” ~ Henri Nouwen
I know. You’re saying, “How can you say thank you for this horrible year!” Fortunately, I’ve learned something very important over the years, that it’s the tragedies, the betrayals, the heartbreaks that have the richest lessons for us. I don’t think anyone can deny that this year has had plenty of opportunities for us to learn and heal and I for one am grateful for the opportunity.
I think lots of people use the last weeks of the year to reflect and evaluate what they’ve experienced, and hopefully learned in the previous months. I’ve been doing that a lot lately and here is what I’ve learned.
No matter how much I think I’ve cleared out unhealed wounds, there is always more work to do. I don’t know about you, but I tend to deal with the most painful part of my wounds, and then think I’m finished for all time. But, of course, that’s not how healing works. We have to circle around again and again to heal different aspects of whatever it is we’ve suffered. Everyone is different. Maybe you stuffed down the most painful stuff and only healed the periphery parts of the wound and thought you were good to go. There is no one right way to heal and each person has a choice whether or not to do the work. For me, I’ve chosen to dig a bit deeper to see if there is anything I ignored that needs to be dealt with.
The healing I’ve been working on these last months has not been deeply traumatic. I’ve already done most of the hard work, but still there is another round of mop up to do. What this has done for me it to allow me to see new possibilities for my life that I didn’t even know were available to experience because part of me was still holding on to all the old perceptions of myself. It’s very exciting to let those go and realize that maybe, even at my age, I have untapped talents that I can use to create a whole knew life for myself.
I’d be interested to know what you’ve learned and what you are grateful for as we finish this most unusual year. Or maybe you’re traumatized and in need of some support. We may be separated physically, but prayers and love travel through time and space. I’m willing to send up prayers of support for you if you need them. All you have to do is ask.
I’m going to keep this post short because I’m working on a special Family Christmas podcast to be posted on December 16th. I hope you have a wonderful beginning to your holiday season no matter what spiritual holiday you celebrate this time of year.
It feels to me as if this is an auspicious time. Hopefully we can heal our deep personal, societal, and cultural wounds so that we can begin to come together as one human family. In any case, I plan to take advantage of our suggested separation to be quiet and go within.
Blessings to you all. Stay safe and healthy. Thanks for your likes and comments.
Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2020
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a new podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.