“Conflict must be resolved. It cannot be evaded, set aside, denied, disguised, seen somewhere else, called by another name, or hidden by deceit of any kind, if it would be escaped. It must be seen exactly as it is, where it is thought to be, in the reality which has been given it, and with the purpose that the mind accorded it. For only then are its defenses lifted, and the truth can shine upon it as it disappears.” ~ A Course In Miracles Lesson 333, “Forgiveness Ends The Dream Of Conflict Here.”
I’m a big fan of reading fiction and watching plays and movies. I say that because there have been so many books, plays and movies that have changed the way I see the world. I believe I’m a better person because I love to be transported by the stories.
This past weekend my husband and I went to see The Hunger Games: Mockingjay Part 2. I had read the books and seen the first three movies. In general I’m not a fan of dystopian books and movies, because most of the time they don’t end on a note of hope. I believe in hope. This series has a large dose of hope at the end. If you haven’t read them, I suggest you do because the main characters must deal with the horrendous mental and emotional wounds they suffered throughout the arch of the story. They must find hope and healing. And they do, as much as they are able.
At the end of the movie, Katniss Everdeen is on an outing with her family. It’s many years after the events that transformed her society. She’s holding her baby, while Peeta, her husband and fellow sufferer, is playing with their young toddler. The baby jerks awake, as if from a nightmare. Katniss then tells the baby how she deals with her nightmares. She makes lists of all the acts of kindnesses she’s seen people do. It helps her remember that there are good and kind people out there and that eases her memories of the horrors she’s experienced.
I can’t say I’ve witnessed horrors first hand, though I have seen real horrors on TV. I’ve never lived in a war torn country, or had to flee my home, but none of us get through this life without scars. According to studies done on the effects of witnessing horrendous events, it doesn’t matter whether we experience them in person or see them on TV or in movies. They don’t even have to be real for us to feel them as if they happened to us. We are affected no matter what the delivery system. The same goes for acts of kindness. If we witness an act of kindness, it’s as if the kindness was done to and for us.
So, we live in a violent world. It’s always been violent. That’s nothing new. However, we’re at a turning point. We have an opportunity to change the world from a violent environment to one of peace. But to do that we have to focus on the problems we face, acknowledge that we’ve allowed them to go on unchallenged and find a way to solve them.
Some of the people I know focus only on the negative. Maybe we’re wired to notice negativity first, but the thing is that people who study the brain, like Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Bruce H. Lipton, have discovered that we can rewire our brains so that we notice the positive first instead of the negative. That’s what I advocate and try to do. That’s why some friends I know want to be around me, because when the conversation turns to all the problems we face in this world, I point out good things that are happening and they feel better.
The thing is, each person must decide to focus on the positive themselves. We each must choose to see beneath the surface behaviors of the people in our lives and in the media as well. That’s not always easy. It’s comfortable assuming we know all there is to know about people we see in the media, or even people we live or work with. But we can’t ever know the deepest hopes and dreams of another person unless they reveal themselves to us. That requires trust.
The media can be our enemy when trying to discover the true nature of people in the spotlight, or it can help us see another side of a person. Not too long ago my husband and I were watching CBS Sunday Morning. It’s a Sunday morning ritual with us. This morning they interviewed Charles Koch. I’ve not been a fan of the Koch brothers because they donate outrageous amounts of money to political causes that I abhor, however, we watched the interview to see if our assumptions about this man were correct. We found that they weren’t. Yes, he supports a large number of causes that I think are destructive. On the other hand, the Koch brothers, Charles and David support causes that I too support. That interview was an eye opener. It made me take a good look at the assumptions I make about people. Each one of us is a bundle of contradictions. What I learned was that I can’t condemn the Koch brothers just because they have billions of dollars and I don’t. Having billions of dollars doesn’t automatically make them evil, as some people would have us believe. And just because they have billions of dollars doesn’t mean I can point my finger at them and lay all the world’s problems at their feet. Oh no, I too have to take responsibility for the mess we find ourselves in.
I often say, and people look at me as if I have two heads, that our thoughts create our reality. Quantum physicists figured that out many years ago, but that idea is just now taking root. Not long ago someone shared this article on Facebook about that very thing, that what we think, creates the events and even the physical things we use in our world. Generation after generation of humans have created the conflicts that have plagued us for millennia and now we have a clue why. Once it got started, nobody thought it could stop. Oh, a few highly enlightened people tried to show us the way, but we thought they were anomalies and we didn’t follow their lead. We clung stubbornly to our old thought patterns because changing was too difficult.
So here we are. We’ve got scientific proof that what we think creates the events out in the world, and that we can change our thought patterns. The question is, will we do it? Will we get up off the couch, figuratively speaking, and actually do something concrete to change the world? Will we notice all the kind things people do for each other? Will be find opportunities to be kind and compassionate? Will we change the focus of our thoughts? Those seem like ephemeral things to do, but they have a huge impact. I’ve been watching it happen. You have to look outside the media in this country to find evidence of change. You have to dig for the stories of goodness happening. You have to lay your assumptions aside and be willing to see the world with new eyes. And then you have to be willing to change yourself to bring about peace. Take it from a Baby Boomer, it’s not easy, but it’s worth it.
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Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2015
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I agree that having billions doesn’t necessarily make a person bad. But it is the way those billions are made that does it. The Koch brother have oil companies, complete with bad wages and oil spills. They own corporate farms that use horrendous amounts of toxic chemical sprays. I could go on and on,
Also, just wondering why you think that now we are at a turning point. What is it abut now? Curious. And I surely hope you are right,
Emilie, In response to your comments about the Koch brothers, I must say that what I’ve learned, particularly this year of studying A Course In Miracles is that I’m not God and I have no right to judge anyone. I’ve made plenty of mistakes and hurt people. The only thing is most of what I have done has not been public. At the end of ACIM, they have new translations of Matthew and John from the original Aramaic versions of the Bible. The other day, before I wrote today’s post, I read this from Matthew Chapter 7 verses 1 – 5, “Judge not, that you may not be judged. For with the same judgment that you judge, you will be judged, and with the same measure with which you measure, it will be measured to you. Why do you see the splinter which is in your brother’s eye, and do not feel the beam which is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, let me take out the splinter from your eye, and behold there is a cross beam in your own eye? O hypocrites, first take out the beam from your own eye, and then the splinter from your brother’s eye.” That one hit me hard. I’ve felt so justified in judging others all the while ignoring my own mistakes.
What I’ve learned this year is that when I live in my ego I think I have the power of God with the right to judge others, but that’s wrong. I don’t have that right because I’m God’s creation on the same level as all his other creations. I have to pay attention to my own actions and leave everyone else to God’s judgement. I don’t mean to sound preachy. I’m just trying to convey the things I’ve learned this past year and one of them is that I was judging the Koch brothers and it’s not my place to do so. Only God knows the purpose of everything that happens and the actions of everyone on the planet.
About my feelings about our turning point. I’ve been on a conscious spiritual journey for most of my life. In college I studied religion and when I didn’t find what I was looking for there, I continued my studies on my own. Many of today’s leading spiritual teachers are people I follow. I’ve read their books, I get their newsletters and daily emails. I also look at current events and for changing attitudes. We’re in another time of great change like in the 60s and 70s. There is a lot of controversy and conversation about too many social issues to list here. And it’s not just happening in this country, it’s happening all over the world. To me, that’s evidence of an awakening. But if you want concrete evidence, how about the day President Obama was elected. Nobody expected that. The polarization that is happening in our political arena is another indication to me that we are in for big changes for the better because there is a very strong reaction to go back to the glorious past on the one hand, and hope and a push to make this world a better place for all people on the other. And one more bit of evidence. The Republican party is splintering apart. Don’t let the media fool you, they don’t have a viable candidate and they know it. Many Republican leaders are ruled by fear. It’s like before the Civil War, the slave owners knew their way of life was threatened, but they fought hard to preserve it because they didn’t want to change until they were forced into it. We may not acknowledge that there is change in the air, but on some level I believe we feel it. I feel the change and actively look for evidence of it and some of that evidence is all the tragic events that have been happening. We human beings are stubborn. We don’t embrace change until we’re pushed up against the wall or it affects us personally. There are so many people being pushed up against the wall at this moment that many of the rest of us have been shaken awake. You may not agree with anything I’ve written here. That’s okay. It’s only my opinion. I hope that clarifies my thinking for you.
Ni agree with you about the signs of change. I just want your thoughts on that. They run right along with my thoughts.
Wanted, not want! I wanted your thoughts and you presented them clearly.
It is more difficult to communicate with just words. Body language and facial expressions are the largest part of understanding another person. In this instance that would have been helpful.