Boomerang Effect

“The more you are motivated by love, the more fearless and free your action will be.” ~ The Dalai Lama

“Life is short and we have not too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who travel the way with us. Oh, be swift to love! Make haste to be kind.” ~ Henri-Frederic Amiel, Swiss philosopher  

The other day I saw a nasty meme about Nancy Pelosi. I didn’t realize it was about her at first because I was looking at it on my phone. But when I read it, I was offended. It would have been despicable no matter who it was about. I dearly wanted to make a nasty comment to the person who posted it, but then I remembered, “What goes around comes around.” I didn’t want to get hit with the negative energy I was thinking of aiming at the person who posted it. 

I know some of you reading this will think I’m crazy when I say that everything is energy and that we get to decide what kind of energy we’re releasing out into the world every moment. So, I was glad I remembered that on that day, and every time I’m tempted to respond in negative ways.

I felt truly liberated when I stopped blaming my pain on outside forces. I’m in charge of the energy I put out and it comes back to me like a boomerang. If I spew hatred, hate is what is going to come back to me.

I understand. Lots of people are frightened. Our way of life is changing and some people don’t have good coping skills to be able to ride the waves of change. What some people do when they’re scared is to lash out and make fun of those they think are against them hoping to gather troops to their side so they’ll feel better. That might work in the short term, but one thing I know from long years of personal and spiritual work, eventually you’ll experience a crash and burn.

Contrary to popular belief, a crash and burn is not a bad thing. Nor is having your life fall apart a punishment. It’s an opportunity to do what I call cosmic closet cleaning. I’m not saying this clearing out process is easy or fun. But there is a great reward on the other side, if you’re willing to do the work. If not, well, be prepared to experience crisis after crisis.

Long ago events in my life made me realize that I had been holding onto a lot of toxic, unresolved emotions. I’d been deeply wounded years earlier, but I’d stuffed down my resentment thinking that I wouldn’t have to deal with it if I didn’t acknowledge it was there. Boy was I wrong! The pain that I thought was buried, was coming out in really odd and destructive ways. I was hurting people because I was hurt. It wasn’t until I actually looked at what had caused my pain that I began to heal. I learned that I had to FEEL the anger and resentment caused by what had happened to me before I could come out of the darkness I’d been living in. 

Healing is a long complicated process. At least it is for me. Even now there are times when I want to live in two worlds, the world where 2020 is a sh*t storm and I need to worry every day about what this or that person did, or what will happen with the virus, or the economy, or yada, yada, yada. The other alternative is to have faith that I live in a world where a Divine force is in charge and everything that happens is for our benefit. I, we, can’t have it both ways. We either live in hell, or we’re going through a kind of birthing process which will lead us back to Eden. Each individual gets to decide which world they will live in. 

For me it’s a daily practice of surrender. Divine Oneness is in charge and I get to see what S/He wants me to do that day. Now that I think of it, it’s really more like a partnership. Divine Oneness is the CEO and I’m Her/His right hand woman.

For you practical minded people, here’s what I do to stay sane and tuned into the real reality. I watch the news sparingly. Most of it is like watching a train wreck. It’s so sensational it’s hard to look away and it stirs so many negative emotions that I have to talk about the experience to dissipate my distress which only sends more negative energy out into the world. Of course, there are real news items mixed in with the sensational stuff, but if real news happens, I’ll hear about it. The segments I stay away from the most, are the pundits and predictors. What they say is only their opinion and to keep my channel clear, I have to ignore them even if they might be right. 

When I’m on social media, I try to scroll past negative posts and memes. Sometimes I hide such posts, or even unfollow people and groups that post them. I have some mantras I say to myself when I’m tempted to get caught up in all the drama. “Only love is real, Everything happens for my highest good, This situation is an opportunity to learn something.” 

I wish I could say I don’t get caught up in the illusion of fear and panic. I do sometimes. But then I feel a gentle presence reminding me that I’m not alone. That I have a choice to fall into fear, or love. In the end, I choose love. It’s my desire to spread that as far and wide as I can.

Thanks for following. I hope you gain something from what you read here. Have a blessed beginning to a new season wherever you are in the world.

Lucinda Sage-Midgorden © 2020

Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.

Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.

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