“I’m often daydreaming, and it’s because I’ve always liked the idea of there being something more than the normal world.” ~ Samantha Shannon
“Visualization is daydreaming with a purpose.” ~ Bo Bennett
You don’t have to look very far to find stories of doom and gloom. Stories that share all kinds of bad news. I’m not going to enumerate them here because, well, that’s always been the case. Disasters make news. I’m not going to talk about those stories because I’m committed to sharing hope, joy, and love. So, I’m going to share a hopeful story I heard on NPR while driving home from teaching my class on Friday.
I don’t know the program because I came into he middle of it, but the reporter was talking with a psychologist about how daydreaming about something we want to experience can help lift our mood and help us get through these difficult times. They told the story of three people who had made small purchases of things that they can’t use right now. They bought those things in anticipation of better times ahead.
The first story was about a woman who had purchased hair extensions even though she can’t go to the hair dresser right now. She bought them to help her visualize the day when she, and her hair extensions would be able to go out with friends to dinner and then a night club to dance and have fun. She takes great pleasure in looking at the the extensions adding details of the food she’ll eat, the music she and her friends will dance to. And she daydreams about what her future will be like when we’re all able to be in public places again enjoying ourselves.
The second story was about a man who purchased a bicycle that can be folded up into a small carrying case. He and his wife live in Alaska, but their children and grandchildren live in London. They haven’t seen each other in person in over a year. Their granddaughter is learning to ride a bike and the grandfather dreams of the day when he and his wife can travel to London to see their family and he and his granddaughter can go bike riding together. He too adds details to his daydream, like watching his granddaughter zooming off in front of him and then circling back to him so they can ride side by side.
The third story was about a couple who are planning to take a trip when they are able. They put a small amount of money into savings every month so they will have the funds to take the trip at the end of this nightmare. They talk often about where they want to go and how they will spend the money on dining, visits to sites, and souvenirs. Again they add as many details to their dreaming as they can to make it feel as if they really will be able to take this trip.
Each of these people said it lifts their spirits to daydream about what they’ll do with their purchases. Just daydreaming every detail helps them feel better. They enjoy the anticipation of the fun they will have and the connections they will make.
What are your dreams for the future? The psychologist on the radio said that daydreaming can bring us pleasure now, even though we’re dreaming about things we hope to do in the future. It might be a great way to help us get over some of our cabin fever, or even mild depression. It’s so easy to go into our dark feelings. I want to use daydreaming to try turning away from those and fantasize about happy events in my future.
My dreams are pretty simple. I visualize staying home most of the time doing my creative projects, getting more readers for my books and blog, and more listeners for my podcast. I dream of what life will be like when Barry retires and all the creative projects he’ll do. I dream of traveling to visit friends and family.
I guess I’d better get the picture of the new car we want to buy and use it as a desktop photo, or print it out and put it up on my wall and dream of all the places we’ll travel to in it.
Have a magical weekend. Thanks for reading, liking and commenting. It’s nice to know someone is enjoying my blog and podcast posts. I’d love to hear what you’re daydreaming about.
Lucinda Sage-MIdgorden © 2021
Lucinda is the author of The Space Between Time, an award finalist in the “Fiction: Fantasy” category of the 2017 Best Book Awards.
Have you ever experienced life shattering events? Yeah, most of us have. In The Space Between Time, Jenna Holden gets slammed by her fiancé walking out, her mother’s untimely death, and losing her job all in one week. But she receives unexpected help when she finds her three-times great-grandmother’s journals and begins the adventure of a lifetime.
The Space Between Time is available in all ebook formats at Smashwords and for Kindle at Amazon, or you can find the ebook at iBooks or Barnes and Noble. If you prefer a physical copy, you can find a print-on-demand version at Amazon. Stay tuned for news when the audiobook version is published.
Lucinda is also the host of Story-Power a new podcast where she and her guests discuss the stories in all formats that have changed their lives. It’s available here on Sage Woman Chronicles and on Apple, Google, and Spotify podcast apps. Please rate and leave a review. It helps people find me.